The Acknowledgment of Now.

Mary Stancavage gave me one of the greatest gifts, a definition of acceptance that feels right in my spirit. The definition has brought me such peace.

Years ago, I frequented her dharma talks and meditation sessions. In one of her talks, she explained acceptance as an acknowledgment of what is. I had always thought of it and forgiveness as an act of condoning or approving. A weight lifted off of my shoulders that evening.

I have to add that I don’t include both acknowledgment and saying something is ok in my definition of acceptance.

Sometimes the best I can do is neutrality, which means I’m not fight what is. Since I’m not expending energy fighting, I can make a clear-eyed decision about my next step, if there is a next step.

Sometimes, there is nothing I can do. Fighting that fact causes more suffering for me and those around me. In those times when I can take action, moving and planning from an unclouded states means I can be more strategic, effective and meaningful in my thoughts and actions.

Action:

Get curious. What definition of acceptance works for you? Or are you still looking?